Guest Post: "Staying Strong in Eating Disorder Recovery - Advice From Someone Who's Been There"
By: Brehlie Kanne
Before you begin reading, take a moment and thank yourself for making the terrifying decision to even satisfy the thought of recovery.
Just the fact that you’re here reading this indicates that there’s a part of the real YOU that you’re still in touch with.
A part of you that knows something isn’t right and that has hope for a brighter future.
Recovery in itself is a series of choices.
Every moment of every day you must choose the choice that supports your own recovery.
Sorting through the thoughts in your head and deciphering between which choices your highest self wants to make vs. those that the disorder wants you to make to keep itself alive, is tough.
But, with practice and the commitment to loving yourself, the fear-based thoughts that accompany the disorder will begin to cower in the light of your radiance, lose their power over you and fade away into oblivion
Whether recovery is just a thought in the back of your mind, you’re ready to begin, or you’ve already begun, remembering the following five things will help you along your journey to living a happier and healthier life where you feel in control and FREE, all at the same time.
Yes, it IS possible.
Take it from someone who’s been where you are now, and has come out on the other side. ;)
5 Things to Remember in Eating Disorder Recovery:
1. Trust Your Body
Your body knows best.
Your mental and physical hunger are valid. Your cravings are valid. The desires to rest, sleep, scream and cry…they’re all valid.
Your body is telling you what it needs. Let go and listen. Support your body in returning to homeostasis.
2. Self-love is Key.
It sounds cliché, but it’s true.
When you deny yourself love, especially in the form of nourishment, you are abandoning yourself and proving to yourself that you can’t be trusted.
Give yourself the gift of love. Nourish your mind, body and soul. Get to know yourself, embrace who you are and your unique talents. Do what brings you joy and follow your passions.
The longest, most valuable relationship you’ll ever have is with yourself, so it’s best to make it a good one.
In the moments when you’re struggling the most, ask yourself, “What would I do if I loved myself?”
Whatever the answer is...do that.
3. The Road to Recovery is Not Linear.
It twists and turns and sometimes you have to re-route…but it doesn’t go backwards.
Journeys always go forward. Grow through what you go through.
In the times when you feel you’ve hit rock bottom, remember that you’re about to rise higher than you’ve ever been before.
Be with yourself in these moments. Really get to know yourself.
Know that you’re growing stronger by the moment and that brighter days are ahead. The journey is what shapes you into the person who you need to be in order to be happy in the end.
4. You Are Not Your Body.
You are the spirit inside.
Your body is your soul’s home.
Take really good care of it. Decorate it how you like. Love it.
Build it up, don’t break it down.
Keep it clean and maintain its structure.
Treat it like something that you want to last a long time.
5. If You Want Control, You’ve Got to Let Go
When you have an eating disorder, letting go of control is actually gaining control. Right now the disorder is in control, using you as a puppet to carry out its many demands.
The disorder LIES and will make you do, believe and say ANYTHING to keep it alive.
These rules that you’re living by haven’t existed all of your life. You thrived before them and you can return to that freedom.
Do you want to be in control of your life, or do you want your life to be controlled by food, weight and exercise?
Your highest self wants you to recover.
Your highest self is the part of you that, even though it’s terrified, keeps trying.
Not to purge.
To eat a little more.
To have that slice of your mom’s birthday cake.
To cut down on the exercise.
It’s the part that’s saying, “That’s enough.”
The part that wants to focus on other things.
The part that wants your period back.
The part that wants to be spontaneous and free.
The part of you that you feel you’ve “failed” or “betrayed” when you get scared and fall back into using behaviors.
Keep choosing to hear her.
Keep trying to listen.
Every moment is a new opportunity to prove your loyalty to her.
A new chance to let go, gain control and free her.
Recovery doesn’t happen overnight.
Changing your habits and rewiring your brain to think thoughts that serve you rather than destroy you takes a lot of time, effort and patience.
There’s going to be times when you want to give up…when going forward just seems way too hard.
Remembering these five things will help you in those moments.
Above all else, be kind to yourself.
Let yourself fully experience all of the feelings that come up and commit to loving yourself through them.
You are stronger than you think.
You deserve to be happy, healthy and free.
A sunflower of a human with an old soul and a young heart, Brehlie Maryann, founder and owner of The Soulfillment Approach, is a trained Holistic Health and Soul Coach. Her goal is to help women master their mindsets, love their bodies, and free their souls.
You can begin your holistic journey to bliss by downloading her FREE Soul Care Guide: 30 days of gratitude, self-care and self-discovery that will leave you feeling confident, rejuvenated, and deeply connected to your inner goddess.